When women come to me and say, “My husband has a porn addiction, and our marriage has become sexless,” they rarely sound angry. They sound tired. Often, their voice lowers when they say it. Not because anyone asked them to whisper, but because years of quiet rejection have taught them to speak carefully, as if wanting intimacy itself might be unreasonable. Most are not asking how to fix their husband.They are asking something much more personal. Is this about me? Did I stop b